Are you a nice guy?
It goes back to our primal imprinting but Women want Guys with Ego.
Nice has the word "ice" in it and that's how she's going to feel toward you if you come off all nice and squishy. That is the fastest way to become a "friend" instead of a lover. Nice guys listen up because what we are about to clue you in on might change your dating life forever.
Nature is an amazing force. All the animals in nature look for the strongest and most attractive mate to breed with. This assures the survival of the species by breeding out the weakest genes. This is the way that it is supposed to work so we don't want to reinvent the wheel but we do want to take advantage of what nature predicts the way that the female will react.
By nature single women will look for the best of the species to breed with. They are looking for potential mates that are attractive, refined, wealthy (or at least appear wealthy) and powerful.
- Attractive - well in some cases we only have so much to work with here but being attractive in a single woman's eyes can encompass more that just looks or physical attributes. If you're not blessed with great looks you can improve your appearance to women by watching your weight and paying attention to the way you dress.
- Refinement - this is a very important part of the dating single women equation. Women are drawn to people who show a bit of sophistication. Let's face it, if you were a woman and were presented with two single guys with the same appearance and one was a beer and chips person and the other was a wine and cheese expert which single do you think would win out? Refinement exudes sophistication which implies education and wealth or at least the potential for wealth
- Wealth - some of us are lucky enough to be born into it but most of us are just hard working schmoes. Wealth isn't something that is necessarily within the reach of most but the perception of wealth is. It's sometimes as simple as simple association. Rather than taking a date to a football game try taking her to a winery, for a round of golf, or to a polo match. In each case you don't have to live the lifestyle but it is absolutely imperative that you know something about the lifestyle that you are trying to exude. Don't take her to a polo match and expect her to swoon when you exclaim "touchdown".
- Power - if you have it you can have your pick. If you don't have it you need to follow the above advice and try developing a friendship with someone who does. Just being a semi-regular at the golf club restaurant, or polo field where you are able to introduce your date to or be recognized by someone who "belongs" there will go a long way to validating your social position.
It is true that women want what they can't have. If they perceive you as something they can't have or something that would be really hard to get you will definitely win over the nice guy that you used to be.
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